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I highly recommend you’re going to www.abraham-hicks.com and watching the video of Abraham’s take on the current “economic crisis”. As soon as I figure out how to upload videos here, I’ll post it here.
Meanwhile. Do watch it and comment here, please.
I had an interesting conversation last night with some of my friends who have a few years on me. They were excited about what I am doing. We have never really had any mentors to show us the positive aspects of aging, they both agreed. All we ever heard was - hide the wrinkles, watch the crows feet, and by all means don’t go grey.
What are these messages trying to tell us? It’s not okay to get old? I used to think that the world was prejudiced towards men and now I am seeing a distinct prejudice toward youth. Maybe it’s always been there and I never noticed it before - having been among the youth - but I really feel such a strong call now to change these messages. It’s truly time to reinvent midlife.
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Permit me to think out loud here because today I feel confused. EEKS - aren’t I the one who always talks about clarity? Well, I’m re-reading a book that I read many years ago called, Your Money or Your Life and it is helping me to highlight a major belief I have that ‘enough is enough’. For years now, I’ve been following the success gurus who talk about being a millionaire. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not against money - far from it - but, I wonder if everyone is really called to have the same thing. I’m finding so many midlife women that I coach are simplifying their lives rather than attempting to accumulate more. I think it goes along with Carl Jung’s ideas about the growth of interiority during our midlife transitions.
I’m an advocate of using Allowing rather than Making things happen (Yes, I love the works of Abraham and Esther-Hicks!) - as well as the message in Wayne Dyer’s book on Inspiration. There truly is a difference between inspiration (allowing) and Motivation (making) things happen. Somewhere in between is a balance.
I’m also doing the program by Mark Joyner called Simpleology and he is Very clear on our need to set specific goals. I GET what he is saying and it makes sense. I clearly know that the Law of Attraction is not about visualizing without action and I know that what we focus on increases.
So, I continue to ponder - how much is enough? and when are goals important and when is it important to ALLOW the flow?
I’d love to hear your comments.
The first step in experiencing or manifesting anything in our lives is to be clear on what it is we REALLY want. – The word REALLY is important here as you may or may not have yet discovered.
How do you get clear? And how Do you get to know what you REALLY Want?
Let’s start with some of the obstacles to knowing
1 I believe the number one obstacle is what I call the I don’t know syndrome – In all my years of counseling and helping people and organizations get clear, the words I hear most often in answer to the question WHAT DO YOU WANT is I DON’T KNOW
Do you really not know? Or do you not want to know?
I’m going to invite you today to consider stopping saying I DON’T KNOW and helping to remind one another to do the same – are you game?
Why? because when we say I Don’t Know - the brain wants to cooperate
Suppose someone comes to your house for dinner and you don’t have salt on the table. Get it in kitchen. I can’t find it - Brain doesn’t want to be wrong.
If you keep saying I don’t know – the divine intelligence in you will begin to agree.
Step one to knowing what you want – is to believe you do know because there is One Mind and you share that Mind and it knows all things - Stop saying I DON’T KNOW
Perhaps we don’t know what we want because we’ve never really thought about it – Most of us plan our vacations more than we do our lives. Or we live with vague wants like ‘I want to be healthier,’ or ‘I want to win the lottery.’
Or maybe we ‘don’t know’ because if we did know, if we made a decision and followed it through and it was ‘wrong’ then what – some people never make decisions because they are afraid to make a mistake and they don’t realize they can change their minds.
Or perhaps I don’t know means I don’t really believe in myself: ‘There’s no point wanting that. I’ll never get it. I remember a time in my life when money was quite scarce – I gave up wanting…the very wanting that could have caused the universe to supply what I needed.
Or if we really go for what we want we might have to leave a lot of things behind and that’s scary – I know a lot of people don’t get into relationship that they say they want, because they don’t want to really give up the perks of being single. Or people don’t get well, because they think that they won’t get sympathy or support.
And then there’s the person who says why bother knowing –because they have achieved things and then said– is that all there is.
Or we say I don’t know because we are so caught up in doing what other’s want that we’ve lost what we want. Notice if you are happy or sad depending upon another’s happiness or misery. Or when people ask what do you want for dinner or where do you want to go you say, It doesn’t matter… hmm…
Here’s a great book for anyone now saying “I Don’t Know”.
There are some great exercises for getting clear.
While this is particularly suited for those looking to start a new career, it can be helpful to anyone who wants a new start.
Buy it now by clicking on the picture of the book. You’ll be glad you did.
I want to share with you this article called “The Power of Appreciation” by Song ChengXiang. It beautifully shows how important the role of appreciation is to our success and happiness. The Power of Appreciation By Song ChengXiang There is a powerful force within each one of us that you can use to overcome any obstacles, no matter how bad the situation is. Once you know how powerful this force is and how it works, you will never have to worry about anything in your life, no fears, no worries, and no anxieties. Life becomes an easy and fulfilling process. You start to enjoy your life; you start to enjoy every moment of your existence. Are you getting excited about knowing what this power is? The powerful force that I am making reference to is “The power of appreciation.” Yes, it is the power of appreciation. If you want to win, and win big in life, you have to know the power of appreciation, and you have to know how it works, and live by it. This is the secret weapon that you can use to win the battle of life, no matter how bad your current circumstances are. Don’t let its simplicity fool you. Just this one simple idea will completely change your life. Ok, let me make a clear statement, let it enter your subconscious mind. “No matter what circumstance you encounter, no matter what situation you are in, you always have the choice of finding something to appreciate in it, and you can immediately change your point of attraction at that moment!” Remember, the quality of your life is determined by the quality of this moment. And you have a choice in every moment. You can choose to feel depressed and unhappy, or you can choose to find something to appreciate, and change your point of attraction immediately. OK, now you ask “How can I find something to appreciate?” Let’s do a simple exercise… Stop whatever you are doing now, find something right here that you can appreciate. Go ahead, find something. Have you got it? If you haven’t, let me remind you of something. No matter who you are, and where you are, I can assure you that you at least have one thing to appreciate, just because you are reading this. Have you got it? Yes! You got it… It is the internet! How wonderful it is that we can have access to the internet and find literally any information we want in minutes. Now, stop for a moment, and really feel it. What does that make you feel? Think about how fortunate you are, compared to those people living in third world countries where they don’t even have a computer. Hold on to the good feeling for a few seconds, really feel it. If you can keep it for 17 seconds, your life will dramatically change. I guarantee you. This is just an example to demonstrate how you can find something to appreciate anytime and anywhere. It is actually very simple, it only takes a few seconds here and a few seconds there, and your life will never be the same. You will find yourself full of energy and happiness. Appreciate the food that you eat, appreciate the air that you breathe, appreciate the sunshine, appreciate the relationship that you are in, appreciate the room that you are sitting in. Appreciate everything. Well, you may say “The food that I eat is not as good as what the rich eat”,”the air that I breathe is not as good as the air in another city”, “the relationship that I am in is not as fulfilling as it should be”, “the room that I live in is not as big as I want”. Maybe all these are true, but it is true only because you have chosen to perceive it this way. And the important thing is you can perceive it in a different way right at this moment. Ok, think about the food you are eating. DO you know there are millions of children in Africa who do not have enough to eat? Think about the relationship that you are in. Don’t you remember that last time your partner gave you a hug when you were facing a major challenge? Don’t you remember all the wonderful things that your partner has done for you over the years? Instead of focusing on what he/she did wrong, why not focus on what he/she did right? More importantly, appreciate him/her; appreciate what your partner has done for you. So you get my point, there are always positive and negative aspects to any circumstances or any people, you can either focus on the negativities and blame what is wrong, or you can choose to appreciate the positive aspect and what is right. This will make a big difference to the quality of your life. I have to repeat, don’t let the simplicity of this idea fool you, practise appreciating here and there, and you will find miracles in your life. Author Song Chengxiang is the author of popular online ebooks “Rapid Manifestation” and “The Lost secrets of Manifestation”. His words have helped thousands of people greatly change the quality of their lives and manifest their true desires easily and effortlessly. He has recently developed a powerful mind programming system- Quantum Mind Power, with a top brainwave entrainment Engineer Morry Zelcovitch. Check out this amazing new system and get a FREE 5 part Quantum Mind Power ecourse here: http://clicks.aweber.com/z/ct/?pScLsegX2LztoomIeP2xew
The Bigger Secret
By Scott Kalechstein
The Secret is out, way out. Those who have been entrenched in feelings of powerlessness are finding their mojo by applying its principles. Yay to the setting of intentions, the power of positive thinking, and the wondrous Law of Attraction! Yay to manifesting a perfect soul mate, the ideal income, and our wildest dreams! Rock on, minds of mankind!
And while I am glad it has become so popular, I do have a few further thoughts to add to the conversation. When it comes to the Law of Attraction, I’m a bit of an out-law. To me it’s a little piece of the truth, and in the minds of egos wanting to play God, that can be a little dangerous. I believe that letting people in on the creative power of thought without also giving equal emphasis to the Law of Allowing is a bit like teaching people inhaling without letting them in on an intimate and inseparable part of the process – exhaling!
To put it simply, the Law of Attraction is about how to get what you want. The Law of Allowing is about appreciating what you get; in other words, letting go and letting God, or seeking ye first the Kingdom. When applied together, these Laws bring balance to the active and receptive male and female energies found within each of us.
It’s no secret that getting what you want doesn’t automatically lead to lasting fulfillment. If that were the case, the bathroom cabinets of the married, rich, and famous would not be filled with such an abundant supply of expensive anti-depression and anti-anxiety medication.
A Course In Miracles puts it bluntly: “The world I see holds nothing that I want.”
Yet we all want what we want. But what’s up with all this wanting? While wanting can be defined as desiring, it is also synonymous with lacking. “The Lord is my Shepard, I shall not want” means that when we surrender our attachment to a specific outcome and trust in the benevolence of the universe, we shall not lack. And that is the Law of Allowing.
When we get rigidly attached to a desired outcome, however, we are coming from the assumption that we are not whole beings until we get what we want. And that’s an illusion that life delights in coaxing us to let go of.
Thaddeus Golas, in The Lazy Man’s Guide to Enlightenment, says “There is a good attitude to take towards any goal: It’s nice if it happens, nice if it doesn’t.” Does that mean we are to be detached from having passion? No, just detached from craving an outcome, from thinking there is some tear in the fabric of God’s perfection that needs to be stitched before we can fully enjoy being alive.
I love watching dogs run after seagulls on the beach. They set their sights on a flock and then are focused, single-minded, and even quite passionate about running down a bird. At the same time, they are very fulfilled in the thrill of the chase, having a tremendous amount of fun just frolicking on the beach. Going home without having caught a bird doesn’t for one moment diminish their love of life.
When we realize that just being alive is the gift that keeps on giving, we may pursue our own gulls just as passionately, but far less frantically. We value the process as much as the intended outcome. We embrace whatever we encounter along the trip with loving arms open wide enough to be grateful for it all.
When we have tasted the nectar of a fulfillment that is not dependent on the outside world granting us our desires, we realize that life is blessing us as much when we don’t get what we want as when we do. In those times we get to practice being friends with reality, letting go of our adversarial position to what is. A heavy burden is lifted each time we release the arrogant assumption that we are in possession of the big picture perspective enough to really know what our highest good is supposed to look like. We get to more thoroughly chew on yet another spiritual slice of humble pie A Course In Miracles invites us to digest: “I don’t perceive my own best interests.”
There’s nothing wrong with having goals and using the Law of Attraction to manifest them. Yet you can attain the world, only to have your achievements magnify and intensify your inner turmoil. An ego’s basic condition of lack, that nagging sense of ‘not enough-ness,’ cannot be overcome by worldy success. When Jesus said his Kingdom is not of this world, he was speaking for all of us.
Even my mother, a devout, practicing atheist, will exclaim after the first bite of some fabulous dessert, “Out of this world!” (It has been said that there are no atheists in foxholes, and I would venture to add that there also aren’t any biting into Junior’s New York cheesecake!)
The Bigger Secret is that there is a state of being available to us that is not of this world. Echoes of it visit us ever so briefly; the first few morsels of cheesecake, the first few mouthfuls of romantic love, and other fleeting moments of satisfaction. For some people who consistently choose to practice “Seek ye first the Kingdom”, that state sets up shop and sticks around as part of the fabric. It becomes the foundation of a sense of self rooted in eternity.
That’s what I want, to abide in a love that is not of this world. Perhaps that’s what we all want, even when we are seeking to manifest things of this world.
Have you had enough of a sense of not enough? Do you want out of the state of wanting that always leaves us wanting more? Let’s remember together: “I am as God created me, and I am free, whole and complete as I am. I am enough, I have enough, and I do enough. I wake up from the dream of lack. I am drenched in abundance at all times. Every sunrise is proof of my infinite wealth, every breath is a miracle, and all is supremely and eternally well.”
When that state of enoughness takes root in you and permeates your being, you will most probably be moved to chase some gulls and have some fun.
Gangway… I’ll see you on the beach!
“Those who bind themselves to a joy
Doth thy winged life destroy
But those who kiss the joy as it flies
Live in eternity’s sunrise
-William Blake
Scott Kalechstein is an aspiring ambassador of The Bigger Secret. He is known and celebrated (and sometimes tolerated) for his playful and passionate propensity for alliteration. In addition, he is a traveling minister, a Life Coach, a modern day troubadour, and an inspirational speaker. He travels the United States, Canada, Africa, and Europe giving concerts, talks and workshops, as well as presenting at conferences. Please visit www.scottsongs.com ( Linked text) to find out more and to sample songs. You can also sign up there for his free muse-letters to receive articles like this one on a bi-monthly basis.
If you are getting the Illuminations ezine, you already have the links to
hear Oprah on XM radio as she interviews Esther-Hicks.
I find the teachings of Abraham to be the most solid spiritual teachings
ever and so I want to share them with you.
If you haven’t yet read The Law of Attraction by Esther and Jerry Hicks,
I recommend it highly. I read it 3x in a row - (I never do that.) and
I’ve been teaching and practicing this stuff for almost 20 years now.
It’s said so easily and to the point.
We are SOURCE ENERGY and we are continually creating what we
want because of the contrasts happening in our lives (in other words,
what we don’t think we want!)
I really want to hear your ideas here. I promise to answer as many entries as I can.
Thanks
Dr. Toni
