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Women’s Web is pleased to share with its readers books written by women, for women, and about women. Women of the Silent Generation—those born between 1925 and 1944—may not be going silently into the night. In fact, they’re still doing it, still loving it, and getting better at it.

Still Doing It: The Intimate Lives of Women Over Sixty

Women of the Silent Generation may not be going silently into the night.

According to the NIH National Institute on Aging US age pyramid, projections are that in 2030, there will be 33.75 million women but only 29.25 million men between the age of 65 and 84. In other words, older women will continue to experience the same “partner gap” as today in finding eligible men after divorce, death of a husband, or having never been married.

Despite the imbalance, we might learn from the experiences of some women of the Silent Generation—those born between 1925 and 1944—who have decided to explore new ways of living, showing us that despite those prevailing stereotypes of the elderly with bath chairs and canes, the golden years are for many just that: golden.

Still Doing It: The Intimate Lives of Women over Sixty (Avery, October 2008) celebrates the lives of some of the daring, outspoken and sensual women of the Silent Generation who are actively embracing new challenges, new careers, and new types of romantic relationships and sexual experiences. Based on extensive interviews and research by authors Deirdre Fishel and Diana Holtzberg, producers of the award-winning documentary film of the same name, the book explores the lives and loves of an incredible group of women in their 60s, 70s and older—women who are confident and wise and willing to take on risks—and relationships—they may never have imagined, whether with much younger men, multiple partners, or other women.

Among those we meet are

• Harret Somers Zerling, age 80, a bohemian and artist with a penchant for younger men. Though mostly straight, she was also the one-time lover of Susan Sontag.
• Lainie Cook, 66, a beauty sings the blues at Joe’s Pub in New York City.
• Elaine Isom, 81, a funny and high-spirited African-American woman and great-grandmother who still feels sexual, despite two bouts with cancer.
• Shelley Leinhardt, 66, an intensely fit and gorgeous woman who left her husband in her fifties to join the rocky world of singledom. She recently returned from doing humanitarian work in Africa.
• Marnie Hensel, 76, a champion skier into her seventies before switching gears to earn her Masters in health coaching. She’s jumped out of a plane and has 6 grandchildren and a new boyfriend 15 years her junior.

As women continue to live longer and healthier lives, their appetite for sex is slow to fade and for many, sex is an essential part of their well-being. The women in this book have raised kids, been in long-term relationships, lost spouses, been divorced, come out of the closet, and even found love in the nursing home, but they are all living life on their own terms. Still Doing It: The Intimate Lives of Women over Sixty takes on myths and misconceptions and provides the tools and inspiration for women of all ages—partnered, single, straight or gay—to reinvent themselves, enjoy their bodies and take risks at all stages in life. Stimulating and eye-opening, this book shows that older women are still doing it, still loving it, and still getting better at it.

By Lyndsay Swinton

It’s never too late for a midlife career change. Before he taught himself how to paint, *Vincent Van Gogh was an art dealer, schoolmaster, student priest, and missionary. Indeed, he was well into his thirties before his artistic talents were recognised. Not too shoddy for a midlife career change!

Whether you want to return to work, get your dream job, achieve a better work-life balance or simply need the challenge, this 7 step career decision making advice will help you think through your midlife career change.
Let’s get started…
1. What skills and experience do you possess?
List exactly your skills and experience, focussing on what you can do, not on what you can’t. These are commonly called “transferable skills” because no matter what line of work you’re in, they are useful.

You’ve probably got unique talents or knowledge – go ahead and list that too. These may end up differentiating you from the rest, and land your dream job. (If you have problems identifying these, ask a friend, or consider some email coaching.)
Okay, so there may be some gaps between you and your dream job, but if you could do it all already, why bother with a midlife career change? It’s highly likely you can close those gaps without going back to school full-time.

Sound unlikely? Well, have you heard of secondments, job shadowing, or learning on the job? And what about taking a sabbatical to work in the voluntary sector to test things out? All of these enable a mid life career change without going back to school.

(If you would like more help closing skills gaps, take a look at my free personal development plan guide.)
2. What field would you like to work in?
So now we know what you can do. Maybe you want to stay doing what you do, but in a different field? My uncle moved from a high flying banking job to become a financial director of a large theatre, fulfilling his love of the arts whilst still getting his “fix” of numbers.
Science, medicine, government, working from home, military…. There are so many choices it can be overwhelming. Luckily the next step will help narrow it down.
3. What lifestyle do you want?
Your lifestyle aspirations change as your circumstances change. What suited you as a footloose fancy-free twenty something may no longer hold water as a thirty something with 2.4 children, dog and pet rabbit. What is your ideal day? Who do you see? What kind of people are around you?
4. Where do you want to live?
Choosing to live in a remote community may be tough going if you have super niche skills. Maybe you can market those skills online – just check out if you can get broadband before you move :>)
Travelling is another consideration, be it the daily commute or international globe-trotting. Does this figure in your dream job? If so, you need to consider the dull reality of trains, planes and automobiles.
5. What salary fits your lifestyle?
Let’s talk money. How much money do you need to live your life - now and when you retire? It’s a sorry truth that most of us have to work to get bread on the table.

Don’t let dollar signs cloud your vision of your dream job though. My sister-in-law took a massive pay cut to move from corporate life to the public sector but one year later is earning more than her corporate salary.
6. What career progression exists?
Are you painting yourself into a corner career-wise? Does your dream job have a finite life span or are there opportunities to grow and develop? Lack of career progression may be why you are looking to change careers now! I certainly moved from one job as the glass ceiling was firmly fixed above my head.
7. How will you progress this?
Right, here’s the really difficult bit. I never said it was going to be easy ;>) In fact, I’ll spill the beans now. Making a midlife career change can be slow, hard work, and requires you to do some tough thinking. But consider the alternative – wasting your life in a dead end job, unfulfilled and embarrassed about how your obituary will read. (Besides, if you make the right decision, your enthusiasm will carry you through the trickier bits).
So come on, how will you progress this?
I’m not going to let you off the hook here! How are you going to land that dream job? Who do you need to speak to? What research needs done? Who can help? Just like fishing, you can only catch a fish when you have a line in the water. Your dream job is out there waiting to be caught.
Giving midlife career change advice is easy - it’s up to you to make it happen. But whenever you find the going getting tough, remember Van Gogh! Pull together an action plan and do it, no excuses.

By Lyndsay Swinton
Owner, Management for the Rest of Us
www.mftrou.com

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There’s excellent news for america’s largest generation! Just as tens of millions of Baby Boomers move into their golden years, new research reveals that our latest years may be our happiest. Could it be that youth really is wasted on the young? Young people usually enjoy high energy, peak physical condition, and that shiny optimism of starting fresh in life. But are they as happy as their parents and grandparents? A study from the University of Chicago shows that people are feeling happier and happier as they age.
Since 1972, researchers have been asking a cross section of Americans the same question: “…How would you say things are these days—would you say that you are very happy, pretty happy, or not too happy?” Results show that feelings of happiness increase over time. The percentage of people who reported being “very happy” grew along with their advancing age. The University of Chicago survey is one of the most comprehensive studies of happiness ever done in America, and the findings should contribute even more to our happiness quotient. Looking forward to more contentment, satisfaction, and joy can really lighten our steps into the future!
“I’m a living example of this principle,” says Dr. Northrup. “My life has grown more fulfilling, more exciting, more rewarding year by year. As we age, we can continue to learn and grow and find ways to make a difference in the world that offer a very deep foundation for happiness.” Each stage of life has its own blessings, and though we may lose a little speed with the passage of time, we pick up life skills, understanding, and knowledge that give us more compassion for others and ourselves. Says Dr. Northrup, “We learn to forgive and accept ourselves for the magnificent beings we are. The pleasure we can experience once we allow it is truly incredible!”
University of Chicago sociology professor Yang Yang calls this the “age as maturity hypothesis”—happiness grows as people mature and make positive gains in self-integration and self-esteem. With the gifts of maturity can come a better sense of overall well-being. Growing older can actually make us feel better! We are learning to look at life and ourselves with a new perspective and a new appreciation.
Dr. Northrup recommends stepping into the future with an open mind and an open heart. While it’s true that life brings changes as we age, how we think about those changes can make all the difference. If we love and appreciate ourselves, we can learn to enjoy and appreciate every stage of our lives. Here are a few of Dr. Northrup’s guidelines for meeting change with joy and hope:
Embrace the Wisdom of Routine. When life hands you circumstances you can’t control, respond with things you can. Either start or continue at least one activity that is scheduled regularly. A regular routine is healing, calming, and reassuring. For Dr. Northrup, a daily exercise routine and twice-weekly Pilates classes have helped her stay grounded during difficult times.
Enhance Your Daily Life. Find ways to bring comfort and beauty into your world. Making a fire in the fireplace, lighting candles on the dinner table, placing flowers beside your bed, listening to your favorite music are all ways to care for yourself. Treating yourself gently and kindly helps keep loneliness and discouragement away—self-care and self-love are always healing.
Know That the Fear of Loss Is Often Worse Than the Loss Itself. The passage of time will bring change and loss into every life. Experiences we share are easier to bear, and Dr. Northrup has found that the changes she feared often turned out to be blessings in disguise. When her daughters left home to begin their adult lives, she discovered how much she could enjoy having only herself to take care of—more freedom to explore and discover her own needs and desires.
Remember That We’re Stronger and More Resilient Than We Think. Facing a divorce and an empty nest in the same year was a difficult challenge, but Dr. Northrup now calls the experience “one of the most strengthening and exhilarating of my entire life.” “Looking back, I marvel at how far I’ve come,” she says. “By trusting in the Universe and being willing to roll up my sleeves and rebuild my life, I’ve become infused with the energy of hope, joy, and new beginnings.” Not only can we gain strength from helping ourselves, we can connect with others and share our strength. “Every day I’m reminded that the energy that supports new life abounds.”
Join Dr. Northrup in celebrating new life each day. Getting older is getting better—wiser, happier, and more loving, too!

1. How much baggage is he carrying?

“Baggage” is different from life history. Baggage refers to serious unresolved problems — an ex-wife he can’t get over, betrayal by a business partner that has destroyed his trust, or an untreated depression. Nothing’s carved in stone. It matters only if the man is stuck, or willing to move on. (Try referring them to coaching if stuck. Attitude can be changed, if circumstances cannot, as you know!)
2. His emotional intelligence.

My client Melinda was having trouble figuring out what was going on with the guy she was dating who was 10 years older than she was. She assumed someone older was also wiser, which is not the case. A person’s emotional age can be much younger than their chronological age. If your intuition is telling you he’s immature, he is, regardless of his chronological age. If you’re in doubt, one session with an EQ coach can give you valuable information. EQ can always be advanced, BTW.
3. What does your intuition tell you?

Are you getting messages from your intuition? You should be. It’s your most valuable guide. Intuition is an emotional intelligence competency. Everyone has it, and it can also be developed. An assessment like The EQ Map will tell you how good yours is, and EQ coaching can help you improve it. Intuition takes up where the data runs out, and we need it for the most important life decisions of the heart. (He may call it “gut feeling.”) How will know he’s the right one for you? Your intuition. Analyzing the data will notget you there.
4. How are his relationships with the rest of his family?

There are patterns in our lives that keep repeating themselves (unless there is intervention). If his children aren’t speaking to him, or if they are calling him constantly and overly dependent on him, there’s something wrong. The same things will likely occur in your relationship with him. For instance, if he tells you his daughter “defied” him and he kicked her out, what do you think lies ahead for you when you first “defy” him, I mean have a disagreement?
5. What is his relationship with his mother?

We all know to check this one, but don’t overlook it.
6. What do you know about his former wife or wives?

Men are far less likely to change of broaden their tastes than women; in fact they are known to marry the same woman over and over again. You can find out what his “type” is and then anticipate the chances he’ll marry you. You can also anticipate where the sore points may lie. Let’s say you’re dating a physician who has married two social workers, and you’re a therapist. For some reason he’s attracted to psychological-types, and for some reason it hasn’t worked out. That reason why it hasn’t worked out needs to be given a long, cold look. (Call a coach!) Unless he is willing to change his way of doing things, you and he will have the same outcome.
7. Where is he in his career?

A man who is ready to retire is often desperate for companionship. If his work has been his “life,” it’s a time of confusion and fear, and his need will border on desperation for something to cling to. It’s not that you’d mind being a “lifesaver” temporarily, it’s that he won’t know his own mind, and yet will be very convincing. If you’re getting a barrage of flowers and cards and he’s talking about Fear of Retirement, give it time and look it over carefully.
8. How long has he been single?

My long experience in dating coaching confirms that a man in transition is not a good bet. Occasionally it works out, but not often. If he is “legally separated” or newly divorced, keep your thinking cap on. Men are likely to grab the first woman who comes along (who’s willing). Their vulnerability and touching earnestness can make them deceptively attractive. You won’t know you were being used until later on. Good coaches recommend their male clients in such a state date several women so as not to “lead them on.” Lead them on to what? A man newly divorced is not ready for a new commitment. If you’re just looking for a good time, he’s your man (thought the ending will still be rough). If you want serious, and you get involved, you’re likely to get your heart broken. Check it out with your coach if you’re not sure what you’re looking at. Men are not as creative in their response to life as women, and the patterns are quite recognizable to someone with experience.
9. What are his finances?

The state of a man’s finances at mid-life can indicate patterns. For instance, if he’s not been able to commit to a career or to a marriage, divorce takes its toll, and he’s likely to be in dire straits financially. There are other reasons too, of course, such as bad luck, or being in field with natural ups and downs, like the stock market, so check it out. The money itself isn’t the issue, it’s how and why it happened. (The value of money to you is a personal decision). Decide what you want and need in this area, check out his situation, and then find out why he is where he is.
If he’s well-heeled and ready for retirement, you will have a high-level problem. Likely he is about to grab a gal and cut loose. Is this you? In other words, what you see is not what you’re going to get. If you have ties to kids in the States and he wants to go live in the mountains of Spain or spend a year at-sea on his yacht, you’d best know this as soon as possible so you can make a decision.

10. Why are YOU dating?

In listening to people, and reading the online profiles, we see different points of view. While we assume in our 20s that men and women want the same thing in marriage, interests vary widely at midlife. A man may be impotent, for instance, and just want companionship, or twice-burned and determined never to marry again which might be fine with you, except what it really means is he will never love again. (I wish these men would come for coaching!) He may have his family all gathered around him and be planning to spend his later years playing with the grandkids, or want to live in the Bahamas and travel 6 months of the year. And what do you want? The main thing to figure out is his flexiblity (an emotional intelligence competency). Some people are quite willing to change plans with time, or for a loved one. Others are not. You need to know what you’re looking at. If he’s the kind who has been in the same profession for 40 years and lived in the same house for 30, and says he will work till he dies and never move, you’d best believe it.
About the Submitter

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“Midlife is when you reach the top of the ladder and find that it is against the wrong wall.”

~ Joseph Campbell

Seventy-six million “Baby Boomers” are facing the midlife experience. Midlife is certainly a time of change and transition, but it is only a normal stage of life, like childhood or adolescence. Saying it is normal means that it cannot be avoided. Live long enough and you will encounter it. As you could not avoid adolescence, so you cannot avoid midlife. Midlife may be denied, but it cannot be escaped.

Midlife is greatly misunderstood. It is essentially a positive experience with the goal of making you a “whole” person. It is trying to transform you from one level of living to another. Adolescence transformed you from a child into an adult. It may not have been a pleasant experience, but it was not meant to be fun. It was meant to change you.

Midlife also intends to change you, and you may not enjoy it. Midlife is trying to guide you towards psychological and spiritual wholeness. At midlife you are only halfway to that goal. More growth is needed but may be resisted if you have become comfortably stuck where you are.

In life, there are two major identity crises. The first, occurring in adolescence, is to establish an identity. You must get a sense of who you are by focusing on achievement and accomplishment. You develop a unique personality style. You become “you,” but the danger is that “you” may be overly focused upon yourself. The second identity crisis is at midlife when you must give up who you think you are so you can become who you were meant to be. This transition is not easy and is greatly resisted as seen in well-known midlife crisis.

While midlife provides the opportunity to enliven life, many people think that it is a time to recapture lost youth. The challenge of midlife is not to become young again but to grow into your full potential. Midlife provides an opportunity for psychological and spiritual growth that encourages you to give up your self-centered nature and learn to nurture and care for others.

Ultimately, midlife is about the search for true meaning in life, which is always a spiritual quest. Midlife is an opportunity for an awakening into a deeper spirituality that takes us into caring for and giving to others. Midlife is trying to make us loving people who can focus less on ourselves and more on others. This is a difficult change, and the midlife journey cannot be taken without a certain amount of suffering.

One of the meanings of the word “suffer” is to live through or to allow an experience into your life. At midlife you must suffer — live through — the loss, change, and letting go of much of what you bring into it. You must give up one identity for another. It is like the transformation from a caterpillar into a butterfly. It is neither pleasant nor guaranteed, but if you don’t take the risk, you stagnate.

Midlife wants to take you on a journey of transformation and make you a kinder and more generous person. While it is often a harrowing adventure, it can be ultimately rewarding.

Are you willing to take the journey? Are you willing to let go of who you are in order to see who you can become?

Learn more about midlife at http://www.lessonsforliving.com/midlife.htm

Dr. Dan Johnston, Ph.D. is a clinical psychologist affiliated with Mercer Health Systems in Macon, Georgia. For 20 years he was the Director of Psychological Services for a large metropolitan Medical Center and is currently serving as an Assistant Professor of Psychiatry and Behavioral Science for Mercer University School of Medicine in Macon, Georgia. Dr. Johnston’s expertise is in stress management and resiliency training. He is the author of “Lessons for Living: Simple Solutions for Life’s Problems” from Dagali Press and creator of the popular Lessons for Living Web Site (http://www.lessonsforliving.com).

Have you read Marianne Williamson’s Age of Miracles, all about midlife? I just read it the second time. It’s my quest in life to change the way the world views midlife and I think this is a start. I don’t always agree with everything Marianne has to say, but there is a wonderful passage that I want to share (in case you haven’t already read it) since it speaks to my heart:

Famous passage from Marianne Williamson
Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate.Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.It is our Light, not our darkness, that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?Actually, who are you NOT to be?You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the World. There is nothing enlightening about shrinking so that other people won’t feel unsure around you. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us.It is not just in some of us; it is in everyone.As we let our own Light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.

I invite you to ponder those ideas -and ask yourself where in your life you are FEARING FREEDOM and therefore blocking this quality that wants to come into your experience in a greater way?

Choose today to accept the fact that we were born free and are meant to be free. Free from the influence, of others. Free of the thoughts and opinions of others. Free of our past. We are not living in the past and can be totally free from that. We are free to be the full expression of who we are - individually. Because we are individual expressions of the One Mind, One Power, One Life, this means we have self choice, volition, a conscious mind, complete freedom and a “POWER TO BACK UP THAT FREEDOM.”

From Ernest Holmes
In the Science of Mind, by Ernest Holmes on p.108 we read: “We cannot imagine a mechanical or unspontaneous individuality; to be real and free, individuality must be created in the image of Perfection and let alone to make the great discovery for itself.” That is the discovery of our Freedom.

We are created with the possibility of limitless freedom and left alone to discover it ourselves. This discovery is called the awakening process.

Ultimate freedom is the freedom to be the divine self that you are, which includes living as a fully balanced and conscious being. When you remember that you are liberated, you are spontaneous in your expression of life and you express in ways that are in harmony with the greatest good for everyone concerned. How many of us live inhibited, for whatever reason.

I watched a video recently of people laughing, just people laughing and they looked so silly and most of us don’t want to look like that. We’re worried that people might think there is something strange about us. So, we hold ourselves back from laughing. How many things do you hold yourself back from? When you accept your Freedom, you are at ease wherever you find yourself. You have the freedom, to just be you. When you are free, you don’t have to worry about what the other person is thinking, feeling, being, doing. When you are really free, you can totally allow another person to be free, because you don’t depend on their being anything. And that’s even your partner or anyone else in your life. Your freedom doesn’t depend on what they do or say. Nothing binds you, you are a true individual, unique and expressive. Life takes on more joy when freedom is realized.

We have total freedom to choose at every moment and we constantly experience the results of our thoughts and the results of our actions. What Freedom that is! We think it’s a burden, but, in truth, its amazing freedom to know that no one else has the power over your life but you. If you don’t like what’s happening in your life, you have the power to change it. You don’t have to wait until mom or dad do something. You don’t have to wait until your partner gets better; you don’t have to wait until the children grow up; you don’t have to wait for anything. You’re the one that has the ultimate power and the ultimate freedom. When we do that, being free allows us to experience so much more of life.

The difference between freedom and bondage is simply the word, Choice. We have choice in every single moment, in every single experience. Let’s choose to be conscious of our choice. But, even that choice is yours.

I’ve been told that midlife extends from 40 - 65 and so I got this idea to write a book where I interview people over 65 for their advice on midlife. You know how when you get an idea, it mushrooms. Well, I just came back from lunch where I was being wooed by a national radio station to do a show — and — well, now we’re looking for sponsors and we’ll be off starting January.

I know what happens when I get an idea. It’s so exciting to watch this all unfold.

Would love to hear from those of you over 65 who want to be included in the interviews as well.
Dr. Toni
Midlife Mentor
http:/www.reinventmidlife.com

I highly recommend you’re going to www.abraham-hicks.com and watching the video of Abraham’s take on the current “economic crisis”. As soon as I figure out how to upload videos here, I’ll post it here.
Meanwhile. Do watch it and comment here, please.